Last night someone rear-ended me while I was stopped at a light. This is not the first time this has happened to me but what made this different is that I had barely picked up my car from the repair shop with the back gate being repaired because someone backed into me and left the scene without stopping or leaving a note. And last night I had both grandkids with me. They had both been in a serious rear-end accident to their mother’s car, not even one month ago. The baby was screaming from fright (it was a loud crash and it was dark outside) and my granddaughter was crying that she didn’t want to go to the doctor (the last accident warranted a trip to the hospital in an ambulance with hours of scary tests). I was a bit unnerved, but my husband was with me, tending to the kids while I spoke with the driver who hit me. The kids were not hurt, the crying stopped and we headed along our way. So today we are driving — a dreary day with a light drizzle and I am stopped at a light. I am looking out my rearview mirror and indeed at every intersection I cringed a bit. It came to me that I just have to trust my driving and other people’s driving, or I will be paralyzed and unable to drive with a clear mind or be comfortable with the children in the car.
Trust and your eating plan
Well, first the obvious: You have to trust that your eating plan will get you to where you want to go (spoiler alert: Keto will do that). I am talking about a deeper trust: trust in yourself to do the right thing. If you are reading this blog in real time when it is posted, we are about a week before Christmas. I bring this up, not because it may or may not be a holiday you celebrate, but because it is the time of year when food commercials are bombarding you through every type of media. Add to that holiday parties, company, treats and ingredients for treats on every end cap in every grocery store. Add to that any sense of fun and joy (plans flying out the window and diet be damned) or any sense of sadness or depression that might be magnified this time of year (plans flying out the window and diet be damned). Maybe in the past you have put your eating plans on hold from Thanksgiving to New Year’s. Maybe you have learned to trust the inevitable: that you never make it through with good intentions so better to put the intentions on the back burner instead of feeling disappointed in yourself.
Stop looking in the rearview mirror
One dictionary definition of accident is “An unfortunate incident that happens unexpectedly and unintentionally, typically resulting in damage or injury.” Let’s apply that to our eating. I am not saying that by accident we pick up a piece of chocolate instead of a glass of water. I am saying that life happens and sometimes things get in the way of our plans. When you go off your eating plan it is often because of unexpected incidents and unfortunate circumstances, and indeed, it does result in damage and injury — if not to our bodies, then to our psyches for feeling bad about ourselves. We learn to trust that these actions result in damage and injury. We trust that our actions do not have good results. Okay — I can see that. But I am asking you to stop looking in that rearview mirror waiting for the next hit, the next accident. Instead I am asking you to just look forward. If you “stray,” just get on with it — don’t slash the other three tires because one has a flat (i.e., don’t wait until January 1st because you had a piece of chocolate on December 25th). Don’t “trust” that you will never get back on track before January, so why bother. Stop dwelling on past accidents, damage or incidents. Instead, build a new trust: Trust that the goal will be worth it. Trust that you can do it! Trust that YOU are worth it. Look forward from here on. Make it a new year with the way you look at things and the direction you face!